Life is not going to cease to offer me opportunities for disappointment, so I had better figure out how to cope with it. I think it’s useful to consider how disappointment happens; in fact, I think that understanding this internal process is essential to coping with the experience of being disappointed.
Disappointment is not just the result of external circumstances; it’s the result of how we view circumstances through the lens of our expectations and hopes. Interestingly, there is only one word in Spanish for both “expect” and “hope”.
When I suffer disappointment it is because my hopes have been dashed. I had an expectation that things would turn out differently and I was so invested in that ou… Read More